Wednesday, September 23, 2009

The Dress You Never Wore.



I've had this dress for almost a decade. My aunt bought it for me, I think to possible wear to a Freshman semi-formal dance, or maybe for 8th grade graduation. Since I was a skinny twig with all elbows and knees and head, it didn't fit. Finally, in the past few years it has been snug enough to look right--even if I have to admit this is because of snacking on sweets and not form some other magical garment-fitting-into ability. I should have gotten a proper shot of the back, since it's way low and has two bows affixed near the zipper.

It's a huge quandary of a dress. It's so obviously vintage, so obviously of it's time, that I've always had a hard time with it. I hate getting too costumy or too obviously 50s or 60s with it, and yet it doesn't seem like there is much option. No matter what I was never able to get rid of this dress, and tonight I finally wore it out. It's too dressy for most situations, but there was a work occasion to wear it, and so out it came (mostly because the gorgeous satin numero I wanted to wear fit me--ten pounds ago, and I had to adjust accordingly).

I figured I might as well be sort of carelessly literal about it. So poof went the hair, some red lips--which did not last, because of snacking--and my favorite pair of uncomfortable shoes. I'm still not sure about it--it makes me feel so sort of, aware of my body, in a strange way, which I guess is a good thing. I mean, I guess clothes should make one aware of something like their own body, yes? There is a line I think, between being self conscious in a bad way and aware that I think I'm thinking of. Because clearly clothes are no good if they obliterate that sense, and yet if it's too obvious, it's equally miserable.

In any case, velvet dresses are lovely.

79 comments:

  1. I happen to think that it fits you like a glove. Perfect pairing of accessories, makeup and shoes. Love.

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  2. Ha, the writing in this post was so fantastic - really mellifluously written. I loved reading it. (I smiled when I read "satin numero"!)

    Anyways, I think you look lovely in it. I, too, am afraid of looking too costume-y when I'm thinking about purchasing/wearing an obvious vintage dress of a certain decade but for a formal occasion, this is great! The red lipstick on you looks great.

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  3. I love the dark green against your hair. It's very pretty!

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  4. That dress is just beautiful. Not costumey at all. I think it's fantastic that you held onto it for so long and grew into it. You look very pretty and sophisticated! :)

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  5. That dress is gorgeous, it looks great on you!

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  6. i know i've said this before, but kater, you are stunning! and that dress! just breath-taking.

    also, i have a vintage dress that was given to me by my grandmother that i have to pretty much not eat in because it is so snug! so i feel your pain.

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  7. I've never posted a comment on your blog before, but I thought now was the time. I think you should be sure about it - it looks like it was made for you and you look gorgeous in it. Teensy bit jealous!

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  8. This is so beautiful and feminine. Your blog inspires me!

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  9. You look simply divine, love how the dark velvet clashes against your beautiful porcelain skin:)

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  10. You look great, very Scarlett O'Hara in her window-drapes dress, even though the dress is obviously very different! :)

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  11. I happen to LOVE it! I've somehow become obsessed with finding velvet dresses of the vintage variety (especially in that shade of green, or in the perfect burgundy red). I haven't found one for me yet, but yours looks amazing!

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  12. "LIKE!"

    What a great outfit.. Really classic. Great match.

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  13. you look deadly in this number. really impressive.

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  14. It flatters you're body very nicely though! You looked filled out in a beautiful voluptuous beauty way! I'm jealous as usual.

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  15. i think it looks really good on you! you shouldn't be afraid to be overdressed, it's a lovely dress:)


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  16. You look perfect :)and that green color is lovely!

    Something very similar happened to me and with a velvet dress too (but in dark brown). I haven't used it for almost 10 years but now I love the way it fits me! Maybe I should remove the shelves, but it's ok!

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  17. Completely stunning. Seriously! That is a wonderful dress, and the color and fit are perfect. Wear it more often!

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  18. Velvet dresses are so wonderful in autumn; I have a 1960s forest green silk velvet number that I can never wear because of how fancy it is (last worn on New Year's Eve, sadly.) A girl needs a lovely party frock, though!

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  19. i really love the texture and color combination of this dress - it works fantastically with red lips!

    i'm new to your blog and must say that i really like it :)

    xo.
    princesspolitico

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  20. Wow, you look stunning! What a wonderful dress!

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  21. This dress looks gorgeous on you!
    You look like an old movie star!
    x

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  22. You look freaking gorgeous...love the hair, red lips, and shoes with this dress!

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  23. love this dress - you look so classic!

    i've been snatching up all the vintage velvet i can find recently - it's so cozy and rich for holiday!

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  24. Oh wow you look absolutely stunning! A 50s bombshell!

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  25. I love this dress and don't think you should be worried about looking costumey at all. It's a very classic shape and what I think of as "grownup sexy."

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  26. I don't think it's too costume-y at all. You look absolutely stunning. I think you made a good call wearing it now because I feel the green velvet could very easily evoke a Christmas memory but you pull it off so well. The dress was made for you, even if you had to wait 10 years for it. I'm glad you kept it around!

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  27. Lovely dress and it does not look costumey at all. Just beautiful!

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  28. beautiful! (you and the dress) :)

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  29. Well, I think you've already been provided with enough comments to stop being unsure, but, just in case...

    You look fab. Seriously.

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  30. This is not costumey at all. In fact, the hair, lips, and sheer stockings and shoes make the outfit work. Lovely.

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  31. What for a perfect outfit, including your hair done. Beautiful!

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  32. You look great! I have really been loving velvet lately, so I'm quite jealous of that cute dress!

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  33. Oh! I love velvet! You look great! I think you look a little like Kristen Stewart in the picture.:):)

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  34. Who is it? It looks vintage Laura Ashley.

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  35. I don't think it looks costume-y at all! I love it! It looks very modern-romantic with a bit of old world glamour thrown in. Overall beautiful!

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  36. Hello, your blog is absolutely my most favourite of all. I adore the long pieces of writing you do for each post, lovely words in all and very different concepts that make me think. You're excellent and a very brilliant and happy writer! This velvet dress is incredible, and it couldn't look any better on anyone else, you have the perfect skin for it. I really like the outfit, it makes me feel all misty all of a sudden.

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  37. Gah I love it and I love you. Just found you through a link on Strawberry Koi and feel like an idiot that I hadn't discovered your blog sooner! Thought I should introduce myself as I'm probably going to be stalking you here! ;) x

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  38. I think you look absolutely lovely and classic; not too costumey or anything. And I love how you poofed your hair up. :}

    Mmm, and I too feel much more aware of myself depending on what I'm wearing. I think a little awareness is good...I wonder how I convey myself physically in the world sometimes.

    At any rate, definitely glad you decided to wear this!

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  39. I always hated velvet dresses, but lately I've been looking for some perfect velvet pieces. This is lovely.

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  40. Velvet dresses ARE the best, and everyone should have one including moi. Definitly on my list of things to find at a thrift store. And that is a great color on you.

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  41. contrary to your belief you look costumey, I think its gorgeous! you definitely fill it out nicely and look oh so glam

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  42. That dress is gorgeous! It fits so lovely on you.

    p.s.

    where did you get those black cropped pants, that you wore in your picture in the last post??

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  43. You look ADORABLE in it :D

    And hahaha it's funny you should post this, I just took pictures of myself in the cute dress I never wear today XD

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  44. you look amazing! it fits you perfectly and makes you look really great. definitely wear it again!

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  45. It seems to fit you very well. Ladylike indeed.

    Love Grace.

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  46. The color is what makes it really beautiful for me. It goes soooo well with your skin and hair (:

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  47. i love the color of that dress, it looks amazing!

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  48. I love how dark the velvet against your lipstick colour.
    x

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  49. Whoa, you are a knockout! Gorgeous dress, gorgeous shoes.

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  50. I don't think it looks costume-y at all. Beautiful dress. You have a tiny waist.

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  51. It looks so good, though. It's the kind of dress that, you're right, could easily get costumey, but you definitely didn't. It's very classy!

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  52. i have to put my two cents in two, its beautiful

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  53. You look gorgeous! It's a very classy little dress.

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  54. I definitely get what you mean about the self conscious thing. It's the difference between noticing posture (not a bad thing) and feeling uncomfortable all night (a very bad thing!) But really, such a gorgeous dress!

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  55. I love the color of the dress and the way you've styled your hair! Literal is definitely the way to go :)

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  56. i never wore velvet before . but yes i agree it's beautiful :) looks great on you !

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  57. girl, all i can say is... PHWOAR!
    this is very bette davis, even though its early 60s/late 50s? it does make you more aware of your body when you wear obviously sexy va-va-voom dresses like this, but in a good way. its so womanly, i love it!

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  58. i love that dress the colour is great xxxx

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  59. Wow, knockout! You're hair looks lovely :)

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  60. You look gorgeous. It’s perfect for Halloween parties since the outfit is all black.

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  61. You’re pretty. I love your outfit you look very sexy you totally have curves and it’s actually a perfect fit.

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  62. this outfit is seriously amazing
    you look like you're in a film set in the '40s and in this scene you're attending a dance with soldiers on leave and a big band

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  63. Lo siento señorita, pero su egocentrismo resulta demasiado dañino a la vista. Por el contrario, es usted una señorita muy atractiva.

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  64. you look gorgeous... sexy and demure at the same time. Love and hair and lips.... what about adding some studding to the neckline to update it and make it feel less costumey? Though I really don't think it looks costumey at all!! Vintage is IN. :)

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  65. wow that dress looks really good on you! vintage vixen!

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  67. really great style ;)
    i love your pics!
    xoxo

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